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Divorce?

Jealosy? Divorce? Perhaps abuse?
About to be "Missing" to life or each other?
In our societies divorce is rampant.
In the good "old" days people stayed married even in "abusive" situations. What should we do?
Pray about marriages and spouses around the world.
Pray about fidelity in marriages.
Pray about/against the spread of sexual diseases.
Pray about a change in destructive family patterns, especially throughout the generations.
Pray against any type of abuse.
Pray about workaholics, who sacrifice even their marriage.
Pray about respect and love in marriages.
Pray about your own situation.

How can we deal with being jealous? Parent, child or partner missing because of indiscretion?
Pray for all by name, if known. Pray for all your families, friends, acquaintances and all your "enemies". Ask God to work it out. Don't listen to silly gossip, just pray.
Pray about jealosy, justified or unjustified.
Pray about not having to "know" everything about everyone's sins.
Pray for forgiving actions. Pray for true love.
Pray for discernment as to what to do and say.
Pray for those that despitefully use you.

Which is more destructive an adultere(r/ss) or a prostitute?
Proverbs answer? Proverbs 6:26...the adultere(r/ss) since (s)he wants to have the very soul of the "desired" one.
A prostitute does not want anything more than things like "bread" or things they "really need". The adulterous seeker does not really care who their "victim" is. Proverbs 7:26
If found out, the adultere(r/ess) "victim" will have to deal with close hurt people, who may be very unpredictable and unforgiving. Proverbs 5:14; 7:21 The adulterous seeker will not care much and brazenly deny doing anything wrong. This person can find other "victims" easily enough. (Proverbs 30:20). This type will quickly turn the tables and accuse the 3rd party "wronged" person of doing "something" wrong or of not doing enough of the "right" things. Why otherwise would the adultere(r/ss) victim have consented to go with another?

Should we condemn and divorce?
Should we suffer abuse and not divorce?
Should we forgive and divorce?
Should we forgive and start anew?
The Lord hates abuse AND divorce EQUALLY. (Malachi 2:16)
And not just violence suffered at the hands of a man...or a woman.
We must choose between all actions with prayer and love.
Pray about the consequences of all actions.
Remember: There will be unrepentant, abusive people. Jesus can still show them his Love. Only God's love can cover their sins. YOUR good intentions can not "change" anyone. God answers YOUR prayers which are in sync with his purposes.
AND remember: The publically accused and condemned adulterous woman was pardoned by Jesus and told: "Go, and sin no more." Seems everyone has sins equally grave that need to be forgiven. The older people understood this faster and left the stoning scene earliest. What would Jesus write in the sand with HIS FINGER that would accuse each of us in our lives today?
Forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

We can do many positive things. We can support married people in our societies. We can support young people as they choose their life partner. If married, we can truly love our life partner so that (s)he will follow us and say, "Come with me." We can learn from what wisdom does and the "positive" critical key things the adulteress did in Proverbs that ensnared her victim. So--we can make our life partner special by waiting for him/her (Proverbs 7:15)(not in the furtive twilight (Proverbs 7:8), but in public and in private) and telling him/her how special (s)he is (something like Proverbs 8: 30). We can also make the bedroom a sanctuary--like spicing up the bed--not only with colours and perfume, but with true beauty and true love. (Proverbs 7:16-18). We can make mealtimes special (Better than the sweet and delicious fakes of Proverbs 9:17; More like 9:5). We can challenge our partners intellectually and spiritually, like the Queen of Sheba and King Solomon did with each other. We can learn to be "the best one in a zillion" and even better "the best only one" for our mate.

There are other Bible models...a second wife, Esther, a wife whose previously divorced husband loved her dearly, but who had many responsibilies and who did not come to "see" her sometimes for a whole month (Esther 4:11)... Vashti, the ex-wife, who had wanted to be treated respectfully (Esther 1:10-12), but wasn't...later on her ex-husband was sorry for what he did in anger (Esther 2:1), but knew he couldn't change the whole system and "the laws" easily for him to "undo" the damage (Esther 1:19).

We can follow Jesus, no matter what. He said, "I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will have a life filled with light." Ask for that light and pray also your variant of the Prayer of Jabez (1 Chronicles 4:10) for yourself and others.
The Hand of God guiding those we pray for will prevent addictive destruction, adulterous thoughts and behaviours and will make it possible "to find a way through".